Essex Children’s Safeguarding Board

I’ve been reading their website.

Despite a lot of material on there regarding suicide and suicidal children, there is absolutely nothing on there regarding attempted suicide while a child is on a plan from the local authority.

It is really the most awful thing.

My child used to describe the most traumatic thing they had ever experienced as being strangled by someone when they were younger and thinking they were going to die, it’s possible they might have if someone hadn’t intervened. This is listed in the case management discussion after the ICPC as my child being obsessed by this person, solely because whenever asked if they had experienced trauma they mentioned the incident. Obviously they told my child they thought they were obsessed with this person, mainly because they are cruel and my child wasn’t given them the answers they wanted, because what they wanted doesn’t exist.

During and after Heidi Hibbett my child described Heidi Hibbett as the most traumatic thing they have ever experienced. This should be well recorded in case notes as this is what my child continuingly said, but I somehow doubt it made it into the case notes. Given it was one of the things I said in the CIN meeting of the 7th June 2019 which was never recorded, it’s easy to see how they work with regards to recording children’s voices, only record what they want to.

Then there was my child’s suicide attempt when my child was on a CIN plan. Before the attempt they spoke a lot about the trauma caused by children’s services, especially Heidi Hibbett. Then afterwards they gave it as the reason for the attempt to everyone, including children’s services.

Yet nobody cares, because the allegation was against children’s services. Screw the child, screw the child’s life. Children’s services reputation is more important than a childs life.

I haven’t had a response from the members of the People and Families policy and scrutiny committee. I am going to take an educated guess that a response isn’t coming and that the matter was dropped shortly after it started.

I have no idea what goes on behind the scenes at essex county council, but I know what the results are, and the results almost killed my child and may still do so.

My child used their voice, it wasn’t just ignored, it was stamped on, children’s services have gone over and above to make sure that all of my children’s voices are silenced, and that when I speak on their behalf I am ridiculed, gaslighted, belittled and blamed for everything.

Yet they keep on lying and saying they put children at the heart of everything they do. Until things go wrong, then they don’t care if the children live or die.

The reality of it is that they don’t care if my children live or die, they honestly don’t. As long as their reputation is intact. They have proven that.

I’ve reached out to everyone I can think of at Essex County Council for help, and to hopefully change the way they do things to safeguard vulnerable suicidal children. I’ve been ignored, degraded, mentally abused, blamed, the lot.

I just had a fleeting thought about contacting the Essex Safeguarding Children’s Board regarding investigating attempted suicides, but there is no point. I’m absolutely done.

I’m tired, i’m crying while writing this as i’m truly truly exhausted, i’m having to deal with what happened every single day, and that is a lot of work, especially with 4 children, and there is no end in sight. My two eldest as things are going now are never going to be independent. My third child is definitely never going to be independent. And I have no idea what the future holds for my fourth, who has already missed 2 years of education.

I asked for help 3 years ago and my children got severe, life changing, emotional abuse. For the first time in their lives they found that their voices meant nothing and nobody would listen to them. It’s left both physical and mental scars on all of them, and i’m left trying to sort it all out.

I wish I hadn’t asked for help, my children would be doing so much better right now, things would be so different, and so much better for them, they wouldn’t have been subjected to what they were subjected to.

With no reply from the committee members I can only guess that it’s because their prime objective is the same as everyone elses, and that is to protect the local authority above everything else, though it’s possible that Paul Turner and others have done the whole twisting everything and using everything they could to say they cannot investigate and blaming me for everything or whatever.

Officers acting on behalf of Essex Children’s Services abused my children to such an extent that they have all been left with life changing mental health problems due to the abuse.

They would not listen to my children, refused to look at medical evidence or contact relevant medical personnel. Twisted things in an attempt to prove their narrative and refused to look at anything or listen to anyone who may disprove that narrative.

Then afterwards they have gone over and above to make sure they don’t investigate any of it.

They drove my child to attempt suicide, another child has come close a few times, both children are still at risk of attempting suicide, absolutely no compassion has been shown to either, in fact the opposite.

They have wrecked the education of all four of my children, wrecked their chances of independence.

They have totally wrecked my mental health, like their Dad and 3 of my children, I suffer from PTSD.

They have destroyed our lives, and they all just carry on like that doesn’t matter, they have lied repeatedly so they don’t have to hold themselves accountable. They are cold, calculating, and corrupt.

If Ofsted are indeed in the middle of assessing Essex children’s services, i’ve no doubt they will once again get rated Outstanding. None of what i’ve detailed above happened according to children’s services, so it doesn’t count. They aren’t even saying it didn’t happen, they are just saying they can’t investigate.

It did happen, trust me, i’m living with the consequences every single day.

Once they get the outstanding rating again, no doubt Helen Lincoln will be splashing that all over social media like a precious child. More precious than my children.

In the unlikely event they get a downgrade to a good rating, Helen Lincoln will be wailing like someone close to her died, because to her, reputation is everything and the children of essex are nothing.

I know this as my family have been on the receiving end of how she does things, i’ve reached out to her twice, no response.

The truth is that absolutely nobody with essex children’s services, the executive team at ECC, the members, the monitoring officer, cares about what happened to my family.

My children all suffered severe emotional abuse from children’s services. They also suffered with medical neglect, mental health neglect, and educational neglect from children’s services.

They suffered from disability discrimination, other discrimination, and were also discriminated against because they are children are what they say doesn’t matter.

Both myself and their Dad were also subjected to disability discrimination, emotional abuse, and weren’t listened to.

I’ve been degraded, lied about, humiliated, brainwashed, and ignored.

Everything I have written is true. Essex Children’s Services or anyone i’ve named here is more than welcome to sue me for defamation if they disagree. They won’t be able to prove it as i’m telling the truth.

This post probably comes across as i’m depressed, which would be because I am. I’m dealing with children who have been through a lot, who have disabilities on top of that, and I am on my own. Services are only now starting to get involved with a view to helping the two eldest with their mental health, but that will be a long time before there is any improvement.

Essex Children’s Services prides itself on the services it gives to children and families who are the victim of abuse. I begged last year for trauma help for my children, direct work to help them, whatever children’s services usually do for children who are the victims of abuse of trauma.

Of course it couldn’t happen because while children’s services aren’t outright denying the abuse and trauma happened, they aren’t accepting that what my children say happened actually happened, and instead used their refusal to investigate to deny my children the help they needed. It’s too late now.

My children accused a social worker of emotional abuse and children’s services did nothing. They have told 6 different social workers, as well as other professionals.

I’m exhausted, i’m absolutely done. I’ve worried for my families future, i’m scared that other children are going through what mine are.

I’m scared that if it hasn’t already happened, that a child will kill themselves under the same circumstances mine were under, and essex children’s services will just act clueless and the narrative will be “No idea how that happened”.

There is a culture of silence at children’s services,